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Groom’s Guide on What to do and How to Write Your Own Vows

Writing your own vows adds a unique touch to your wedding ceremony. However, we understand that vow writing isn’t a simple process. So instead of starting at a blank sheet of paper for hours on end, check out this sample vows and writing tips, and consider this the walkthrough before the big game.

Vows typically have a defined beginning, middle and end.


State your name, her name and your intentions for marriage.

Example — I, Romeo, stand here ready to take you, Juliet, to be my wife, best friend and lifelong partner in marriage.


State why you intend to marry and what marriage means to you. This would be the time to use any poetic skills you may have. It might also be an appropriate time to include a story that illustrates your love for the bride.

Example — As husband and wife, I know we’ll be able to accomplish anything and overcome any challenges that stand in our way. From the moment I met you in college, I knew you were the one I was meant to spend the rest of my life with. As we began to date and get to know each other even better, these thoughts were confirmed. I have never doubted my love for you; in fact, it has grown stronger every day.


Pledge yourself to your bride. This is where you’ll want to make the promises that will last a lifetime. This is the portion of the vows that you’d probably recognize by the words “in sickness and in health.”

Example — From this moment on, with you at my side, I promise to always live by the vows I make today. I promise to give you the best future I can and to be the best father I can when we welcome children into the world. I will love you whether we’re rich or poor, healthy or sick, young or old. I pledge to hold these promises dear to my heart for the rest of my life.

Remember, size doesn’t matter. Your vows don’t have to be long. It’s what you say that counts.

Wedding Vow Writing Tips

Writing your own can be a great way to make your wedding day unique. But it can also be a daunting task that shouldn’t be taken lightly. Remember, this is a wedding decision that should be made jointly with your bride.

Once you’ve decided to write your own vows, here are some helpful tips to get you started. First, write a list of reasons detailing why you chose your bride-to-be. A couple of examples might be: she’s really hot (er, her beauty – inside and out), her ability to make you smile or her constant encouragement and support. Think about your favorite memory of your fiancée. Maybe it was when you first met her or when she finally agreed to go out with you. If you both have a favorite story or poem, you could use a quote from it, (although we wouldn’t recommend quoting SportsCenter). Another great resource is the Internet. Check out a variety of options and approaches and choose the right ones for you.

Once your vows are complete, it’s also a good idea to review them to make sure they’re all things you’d be comfortable declaring publicly in front of all of your friends and family.

Our most important tip is this: Whatever you do, make sure to practice, practice, practice. You want to be able to stand up in front of your guests and your beautiful bride-to-be and sound clear and confident. Although this it’s often easier said than done, try to relax and take your time. When done right, it can make you the envy of all your friends and family.

Now that you Got This..... Create your game plan

For more help with creating your wedding ceremony, vows or vow renewal feel free to reach out to us. We are here to help!

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